Thursday, August 19, 2010

Confession

I have a confession to make, and I know it is truly going to shock you. I have thought long and hard about making this public, and I have decided that I must be honest. I know that none of you faithful readers would ever guess this about me, so prepare yourselves. I have an unhealthy need for... your comments. There. I said it. For better or worse the truth is revealed. I know I started this blog with all this great talk about how it was truly for me, letters to myself that I can look back on and remember old times fondly, and blah, Blah, BLAH!!!! Who are we kidding here? I crave your feedback like a kid craves Pixie Sticks. When I post a new blog I check back on it several times THAT DAY with no other hope in my heart than to see that there are comments from my readers. I am always disappointed when there is nothing new for me to see. For the record I am the same way about posting notes and status messages on Facebook. I love the fact that when you log in you get a little red flag that tells you that someone thought you were cool enough/important enough to respond to something you had to say. I find the thumbs up to be somewhat less satisfying, but I will absolutely take what I can get.

I think any blogger, were they being completely honest, would admit that they are not just writing for themselves. I am sure that even the most successful bloggers who have thousands and thousands of readers don't necessarily take time to read every comment, but I feel certain they poll at least a few to see what the consensus about the piece was (or they pay someone else to do it since they are probably making BANK from all the advertising money.) The point is to share thoughts, and while I can acknowledge that there are some out there for whom comments are NOT the driving force, if sharing and feedback wasn't at least a factor, who would publish what they think on the web? A blog without feedback is a diary, which has its place, but not on the web.

So I am making this confession for one reason. To shamelessly beg you, dear readers, to throw me a bone here. I understand you are busy, and that you don't necessarily care about what I am writing, well, most of the time. But do a girl a favor and once in a while leave me a thought. Honestly, it doesn't even HAVE to be about what I have written, though that would obviously be nice. I have no pride here. I need your comments. I need them here, and if we happen to be facebook friends, I need them there too. I know I am a sad, attention-starved creature, but can you honestly say you are surprised?

6 comments:

  1. Haha I saw the title and got nervous... And fyi... I'm not surprised by your "confession". ;)

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  2. First, I want it noted that I have commented at least some of the time. I'm always interested, but sometimes my interest doesn't translate into coherent thought. And my confession is that I have a fear of social awkwardness that kicks in when I don't know what to say, meaning no comment You have no idea how many times I proofread this one!

    Secondly, I so understand. Starting my own blog (now abandoned these last two months or so) thrust me back into a feeling not unlike a high school popularity contest. I try to pretend, too, but the truth is that I want attention just like you. So I will henceforth give you word love, even if it's only an eloquent "Yup" or "Right on."

    Thirdly, don't scare us like that again! I was braced for bad news or a Jerry Springer moment! I'm so glad that you're all right.

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  3. Ann, you definitely get an A+ in the comment department, though I will say your absence from the blog world these last couple of months has made me sad! I know you have a million things going on and I guess I am just so nosy and excited to hear about them. I will return the love and make sure to let you know what I think (usually "that's awesome!) whenever you post.

    I also understand about proofreading- I am so afraid of an awkward response and of stupid spelling mistakes that I will copy things into Word to spell check before I post.

    Finally, sorry about the dramatic buildup, but in typical attention-seeking fashion I thought an ominous title might attract more readers.

    P.S. I am coming to Morehead with Will at the end of the month and will be in town for a week. I would love to meet up with you guys if a convenient time and location can be determined!

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  4. Just so you know..I check your blog daily for a new post. Although I may not always comment, I'm a faithful reader!!

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  5. Hi Sam, Glad the ankle's healed up! Given by the paucity of my own blog posts, I'm not the daily blog reader/writer type - but I do check in on you in batches via the wonderful Google Reader :o) I love your candidness - and I agree, I think anyone who posts on blogs, Facebook, etc. hopes that someone out there, will read their ramblings! (Even if it is just Grandma, hehe). Hope you, Eli, & Will are having a great summer!

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